Last week we focussed on gratitude, and deliberately called in all the incidents, people and influences that deserved our gratitude. This week, I am going the other way.
This week I want you to accept there are people, and incidents that cause you grief and anxiety and there’s nothing –or at least- not much you can do about it.
But… and there’s always a ‘but’. You can almost always do something.
First I want to draw you’re attention to the word ‘nothing’. Or perhaps you can look at it from another perspective and split it up into ‘No Thing’. And when you do that the connotation becomes something completely different.
It gives us a choice. It reveals the fact (one I didn’t discover until my 50th year!) that even when you do nothing, you have, at some level, chosen not to do anything.
This is so powerful a revelation I’d like you to take a moment before you read on to think about it…
What does it mean in personal terms?
If ‘no thing’ or ‘nothing’ means we have made a choice even if it is on a subliminal level, to do nothing, it implies – no it states – that we have a choice over every aspect of our lives, even it is only how we react to the events going on around and to us at that moment in time.
It puts the power back in your hands. Instead of being a ‘victim’ you become empowered.
I never said it was easy! It’s not. Like most new things, it takes time to assimilate, and then to become a ‘part’ of you. And because we are human, it is all too easy to slip back into the ‘victim’ mode when the muck hits the fan.
Here is a meditation to help you plug into the self-power and to strengthen yourself in times of adversity.
If you do not feel ready for this, then KNOW that is just Fine. You are exactly where you are meant to be right now.
In this meditation, find that special place you use where you will not be interrupted and settle your breathing into a regular and comfortable rhythm. Imagine you have a large supply of pink balloons at your side. Then quietly and without stress allow the details of a person or incident that is causing you problems to come into your mind. Do not allow yourself to connect with the stress of the situation while you study the image before you.
Blow up one of those pink balloons and imagine the person or situation inside the balloon, with the knowledge that pink is the colour of love.
Seal the balloon, and release it and watch it float away.
Do this for each situation that presents itself to you.
Notice how you feel as you watch those balloons float away from you.
Know that this is something you can do as frequently and often as you like.
When you have sealed the last situation into a balloon and released it, focus once more on your breathing, and when you feel ready to return to your surroundings do so.
Although it may seem a simple exercise, this is a fairly intensive meditation, so when you are finished, pamper yourself with candles –if that’s your thing- and a wonderful soak in a hotub, or something equally enjoyable.